Those three little words: Five things to do before you say ‘I LOVE YOU'

Before you say the biggest three little words that exist, make sure you do these five key things.

1.MEET HIS FRIENDS. They say you can tell a man by the company he keeps. His frienda re his forcefield, and there will be a lot of his past, present and future reflected in the inner circle. Meeting the crew is a big step – the modern day equivalent of meeting his familu. If you really cant stand his mates, be warned he may nor like having to choose between you and them (would you?) Also, he should suggest hanging with his nearest and dearest. If he’s hesitant about showing you off to the crew, that’s gotta start raising some eyebrows.

2.TAKE A FEW TRIPS TOGETHER. If the private jet to Spain is, ah, booked for the weekend, a day trip out of town will suffice. Spending some serious one-on-one time together is a great way to really get to know someone, and make sure that what you have isn’t just a combination of hormones and high school boredom.

3.TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE. Is it love or just flirting? One way to find out is how long he sees this lasting. You don’t have to bring up marriage and babies when it comes to future0-talk. You just wanna make sure you’re not just hid ‘girlfriend of the week’ before you go dropping the L-bomb. A simple vhat about uni or plans for the first year after high school should suss what he’s thinking.

4.HAVE A FIGHT. Firstly, we DON”T mean start a fight – who are you, Lilo and Sam? And okay, we don’t mean have a massive screaming-at-each-other-at-3am-brawl – if your’e having those, maybe you guys shouldn’t be together in this first place! We’re just saying this: relationships aren’t all sunshine and ponies. Sooner or later you’re going to have a disagreement about something, and that’s totally normal. What you need are great communication skills and a mature attitude to see where he’s coming from before working towards a compromise. Can you get his point of view? Is he respecting where you’re coming from? Lovers stiffs are nothing to worry about, as long as you both know how to deal.

5.WAIT AT LEAST THREE MONTHS. Oh, okay. We admit it. Some Girlfriend staffers have been to known to bust this pout after, um, three weeks. And who’s to say being romantic and crazy isn’t just a little bit magical? Just be warned: an early ‘I love you’ will freak the commitment-phobic right outta town. Patience is a virtue, and even if you know you’re both on a one-way, you may wanna wait till he catches up.

COOL vs. FOOL

Cool: being aware he may not say it back.
Fool: saying it in the first week.
Cool: Enjoying being in love – even if he isn’t quite there yet.
Fool: blurting it out the first time it pops into your head.


Source: girlfriend magazine